I have been thinking a lot lately about the concepts of dominance and submission. I have come to the conclusion that I am naturally submissive in the bedroom. This is odd to me, as I feel I am a natural leader in all other aspects. But something about being “led” in the bedroom is very attractive to me.
Here is the problem. AP and I were discussing fantasies the other day, and he let me know that he would like to be dominated. Exactly how does one go about doing that? It’s not that I am opposed to it at all. It’s just that I truly have no idea where to even begin.
Thinking about it intrigues me, and lately, it consumes a great deal of my thought process. I love the idea of dressing up – no matter what the occasion. So, if for no other reason, I want to try this. I want a fabulous domme ensemble. I want to look and feel in control. I want to take the reins and make my lover do exactly what I want him to do, when I want him to do it. And I want AP to love every minute of it.
I just don’t know how. Every time I try I feel like I am being bitchy or too bossy. I don’t know how to get past the polite girl I was raised to be. Do dommes say please? Do they thank their subs when they do what they are told? Do they apologize?
I really need some help here guys. I want to be who he wants me to be, even if it is only for one night. And I know that he will most likely want to resume our usual roles soon enough. It’s just that he has gone out of his way to fulfill every request I have ever put forth. I want to do this for him. I just need guidance! (And a great pair of boots! LOL)
HELP! PLEASE!